The Dessanti-Urbanowicz Family

This is a short story of our journey that answered our prayers and made our dream come true.  We struggled through fertility treatment and major costs for 5 years.  The holidays were agony and our lives were incomplete.  One day, our doctor finally said to give up and we should plan to adopt.  I will never forget that day, I cried so hard for the past years but I also felt a relief that we should begin in a different direction.  We spoke together about loving a child not born to us and if we could treat them as our own. We searched our hearts and soul and knew that we wanted to love a child and share our lives forever.  

We researched different opportunities available; domestic vs. international adoption and attended many seminars.  We finally found Happy Families, a small and very personable International Adoption Agency and immediately felt that this was the right choice.  They taught us about different countries and expectations, but most importantly about the children we would meet.  We felt a connection with Russia and began the paperwork process.  I will never forget at the first meeting, someone said, "Congratulations, you are going to be a mother!"  Before we received a referral to the time we brought our baby home, every step we took was for this adoption.  The stress and waiting period is a challenge to overcome as every person has their own story's of ups and down's but we all share the agony and uncertainty.  At times, family support wasn't enough and it helped to find support from people that are going through the process with you.  However, time does pass and good things do happen to good people...eventually!  

The day we met our son will forever be in my memory. His daddy-to-be saw him first and gasped, Aaww!  I was so excited I looked at our boy and my eyes instantly filled with tears.  We knew he was our son, knew it immediately.  

Returning home was very difficult and to carry on in one's daily routing while you wait for a phone call to return to bring your son home.  You think so many things, "Why the wait?" "It's better for the boy to be with us!"  "Hurry up!"  It's all part of the process and we all go through all these stages.  As people say, it is very similar to being pregnant, the process is grueling but well worth the pain!

When we returned to court and preparation to bring him home.  The feeling was indescribable…a dream come true that you never thought could or would happen and it DID!  The time in Moscow with our baby for the paperwork was a great time for us to bond as a family.  Before returning to home and all the phone calls, people and work.  It was a time that we had to focus only on each other and our needs. 

Now, a month after our return, I feel as though our son was always a part of our life, yet I still watch him in disbelief that this dream has come true.  We feel very fortunate for being a family and we are sure that this whole journey from the start was meant to be. 

Sincerely,  Dianne Dessanti and Steven Urbanowicz